After encountering this idea, I started wondering what is it that makes someone in my network to give heed to my words, observe my actions, and eventually at least pretend that I bear some value to them.
Using a derived idea, I call this “The Socially necessary value of oneself”.
Every sect of this network has a commonality between their interests and mine. As long as I am able to cater to the interests of this particular sect, and if I also happen to maintain a gradient, or at least camouflage obscurity as a gradient, the interactions happen in a mutually respectful and responsive manner. The efforts I invest in catering to each of these sects is what I call as the “socially necessary value”. This is not me trying to cater to someone else consciously, although that ends up being a ramification. It is more of an exercise of expanding the self.
Now, it might not be a generalization, but based on my interactions for quite a substantial period of time, what I have come to realize is that a gradient helps in getting people to give heed to you. And the more diverse one’s realms of gradients are, broader will the diaspora grow into.
The incessant efforts I put in, to keep pace with these other sects conversely are building up my skills and that’s not something I might want to complain about.